We all want to have a relationship as close to perfect as possible but the truth is a “perfect” relationship doesn’t exist. We all encounter bumps when it comes to our relationships. Obviously no relationship is perfect all the time.

This isn’t to say that you can’t be complete happy all the time in your relationship, you absolutely can. Finding inner peace in relationships isn’t as hard as some people think either.

How do you do this? I can really put this concept down in one word…

Perception.

The way that we perceive the things that happen in our relationships directly dictates what we will feel as a result of that experience.

Here’s an example…

You’re home waiting for your wife to get home and she’s running late. After she’s about an hour late you start worrying and try to call her on her cell phone which she doesn’t answer. You might start thinking that she has been in an accident or that something happened to her so you start worrying.

This is how many people think, they start imagining the worst possible scenario.

Usually your spouse will show up and you’ll jump at them asking “WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?”, “I HAVE BEEN WORRIED SICK!” Then your spouse starts to explain that they were caught in traffic and that their phone battery went dead or something of that nature and you feel like you over reacted which you most certainly did!

The key here is that you “chose” to be worried instead of thinking “they are probably just stuck in traffic” and to top it off, you jumped down your spouse’s throat when they came in the door. I don’t know about you but if I was stuck in traffic for an hour I sure wouldn’t want to be greeted like that when I got in the door!

Just as you “chose” to be worried, you can “chose” to be optimistic and think the best of every situation.

By doing this you will save yourself a huge amount of stress and also save yourself tons of arguments and fights as a result of always thinking the worse of every situation.

When you take control of your perception and chose to perceive things optimistically and always think the best of each situation you will find that nearly every experience you have will turn out to be a positive one.

The first step though is making that choice to change your instinct to think the worst about a situation.

This isn’t as easy as flipping a switch at first. You really need to be conscious of your thinking and catch yourself when you start thinking like this so that you can quickly change your thinking.

You won’t catch every instance at first but over time you will find that you gain more control of how you perceive things and you will automatically start perceiving everything in a happy, go lucky way.

Just like a muscle in your body, your mind will grow and become stronger as you train it perceive things optimistically.

So start being conscious of the way you perceive the situations in your relationships and you will find that it’s much easier to continuously be happy and achieve a much more peaceful and fulfilling relationship.

Love & Peace,
Chris Elliott

First, I want to welcome you to the first blog post at LovePeaceProject.com

As many of you know, this project has been a long time coming. I went through many phases of how I wanted to launch this project which resulted in me not launching it at all for some time.

As I sat here thinking about this today, I though “This is the exact kind of thing that I want to share with people”. Meaning that this blog is not only about finding inner peace, loving relationships and developing as a person, it’s also about finding the fire to make the changes that bring the life you desire into your hands which brings me to a very important point…

Things will never be perfect, ever.

The nature of living life is that it is always evolving and always progressing, whether it be positive progress towards your goals such as vital health, business success or loving relationships or negative progress toward things you don’t want like weight gain, business failure or a bad relationship.

Your goals are simply steps on the way to living a fulfilling life.

Think of your life as a book that has no end. Each day is another chapter in your ever evolving story of success, happiness, peace and fulfillment.

You might be asking…”but what does all this mean?”

The point I’m trying to make here is that you absolutely can’t wait for things to be perfect because they never will be. You must take action regardless of how “unorganized” things may seem around you.

The truth is, your goals have a way of fitting themselves around you and manifesting themselves as long as you are taking consistent, forward action toward them.

The second you make the conscious choice to move towards your goals is the day that they start becoming real.

While there are of course, many other things that I would like to add to LovePeaceProject.com before making it officially live, I realize that I can start helping people now and sharing my takes on life so that’s what matters.

I’m moving towards my goals and they will wrap themselves around me.

Take forward action on something that you’ve been putting off or felt that it just wasn’t the “right time” for and the end result you visualize will become your reality.

Love & Peace,
Chris Elliott